Featured: Is your wedding planning taking over your life?
Is wedding planning taking over your life? It’s really easy to get totally in the zone some times when you’re planning your wedding and it can seem a bit like its all you ever eat sleep dream about. Sneaking onto wedding blogs at work and spending you r evenings watching “Don’t tell the bride” and “Say yes to the Dress” but this can seriously escalate until you become the girl no one wants to invite to the pub in case all you do is talk about your wedding..
So if you think you might be heading this way here are a few things you can do to refocus.
Try and get some perspective
Your wedding is after all only one day, in the rest of your happily married life. Try to make some longer term plans for your life together, where do you want to be in 5 years’ time, Kids, house, careers. Try to refocus yourself on the plan for you marriage not just your wedding.
Communicate & Delegate
Nerves are easily frayed when people are busy stress is one of the biggest complaints when it comes to weddings, and most of the stress is on the main organiser which is usually the bride. So if you are feeling over whelmed then its time to take a step back and get other people involved. Have a good long chat with your partner and explain how you feel and ask them what they can do to help you out, even if its make a few calls to your vendors to confirm some details or to his side of the family to confirm their numbers. Get your brides maids or your mum involved in picking up their dresses or shoes.
Down size things
I spoke about down sizing your bridal party last week which you can read here.. but there are other things you can down size, admittedly if you have a venue booked with a minimum number policy it might not be practical to down size the guest list as this could end up costing you more.
Down size the finishing touches really to be honest all those little “finishing touches” that you see on blogs all those paper cranes and vintage flags and straws are all lovely and but really they are entirely for you, very few if any of your guests will notice if you have stripy or black straws in your drinks unless you go around telling them on the day they will just assume that the black ones are what you picked. So just think to yourself – would I rather spend Sunday afternoon making 400 paper cranes or would I rather go out to lunch and have a chat with the girls?
Or maybe throw out the idea of a seating plan, just let everyone sit where they like with whoever they want to sit with.
And if all else fails change things.
If you really are finding that its far too stressful and maybe consider eloping, just throwing your hands up and cancelling everything. After all the wedding in one day, it’s the marriage that counts 🙂
Graham Crichton is an award winning professional wedding & portrait photographer based in Belfast, Northern Ireland. With 10 years of experience and having photographed hundreds of weddings he has photographed weddings all over Ireland, the UK and abroad.
Hannah Crichton is the principal photographic assistant, blogger and studio manager (and other half of Graham Crichton Photography). Hannah and Graham recently married themselves in Ynysybwl, Wales, where Hannah is originally from. Hannah loves “everything wedding"!
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